Self-Care for Parents: Why It’s Crucial and How to Make Time for It

By Larry Deavers

Parenting is one of the most rewarding, yet demanding, roles anyone can take on. It requires patience, resilience, and often a significant amount of sacrifice. Parents spend much of their time tending to the needs of their children, their homes, and their work, frequently putting their own well-being on the back burner. However, the truth is, without proper self-care, parents can quickly become overwhelmed, burned out, and unable to effectively support their family. So, why is self-care so important and how can you make time for it?

Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. The demands of raising children can lead to stress, fatigue, and even burnout. Many parents juggle work, household chores, school activities, and the emotional needs of their children, leaving little time for themselves. Over time, this constant strain can affect a parent's physical health, emotional well-being, and even their ability to care for their children.

Managing Stress: Stress is a natural part of life, but when it goes unmanaged, it can lead to physical and emotional exhaustion. Without time for rest and rejuvenation, parents can feel mentally drained and emotionally unavailable. Practicing self-care helps reduce stress by providing a break from the constant responsibilities. It can recharge your energy, making you more patient, focused, and effective as a parent.

Emotional Well-being: Parents who don’t take time for self-care often experience increased anxiety and frustration, which can affect their relationship with their children and spouse. Prioritizing self-care allows parents to maintain a healthy emotional state. When you are emotionally balanced, you are better able to manage their reactions, communicate effectively, and to truly be mentally and emotionally present for your family.

Physical Health: Chronic stress and lack of rest can take a toll on physical health. Many parents sacrifice sleep, proper nutrition, and exercise in order to keep up with their responsibilities. Taking time to meet your own needs, such as getting enough sleep, eating healthy, and exercising, can boost physical health and energy levels, making you better equipped to handle day-to-day tasks.

Making time for self-care does not have to be an added burden.  Starting with even a small amount of time for yourself can have huge benefits and help you calm and re-center yourself.

Sleep is one of the most important aspects of self-care, yet it’s often the first thing parents sacrifice when their schedules get busy. Lack of sleep affects mood, cognitive function, and overall health. The effects of sleep deprivation may not always be obvious, but they can have a detrimental impact on your ability to manage emotions, solve problems and exhibit patience.

Delegate Responsibilities. Many parents try to handle everything on their own, which can lead to feeling overwhelmed. As children mature and responsibilities evolve, be sure to re-visit how duties are assigned from time-to-time.  There may ways of sharing your load with your spouse or children that you haven’t considered. And, no, that does not mean you are a bad or lazy parent, so stop feeling guilty!

Setting boundaries is an essential part of self-care. Parents often feel pressured to say “yes” to everything, such as attending school events, hosting playdates, or volunteering for activities. While being involved is important, overcommitting can lead to exhaustion. Accept the fact that you will need to say “no” sometimes in order for you to be the best version of yourself you can be for your family.

Mindfulness practices, such as deep breathing, meditation, or prayer, are powerful tools for managing stress and improving emotional well-being. These activities don’t require much time or energy, yet they can have a profound impact on your ability to remain calm and focused. Set aside a few minutes each day to practice mindfulness, even if it’s just sitting quietly for a moment to center yourself.

Physical activity is an excellent way to improve both physical and mental health. It doesn’t have to be a long workout at the gym—simple activities like walking, stretching, or dancing with your kids can provide the same benefits. Find an activity that you enjoy and make it a regular part of your routine. 

Self-care is not a selfish act; it’s an essential part of being a good parent. By prioritizing your physical and emotional well-being, you are better equipped to handle the challenges of parenting and create a healthier, happier environment for your family. While finding time for self-care may require some effort and adjustment, the benefits are immeasurable. By starting small, setting boundaries, and asking for help, you can ensure that you are present with your family, physically, mentally and emotionally, and that you are bringing them your best self, the version you always want them to remember!